FATHER
No need to suggest and state a sub-heading with this word. There is a hidden europhia behind this word "FATHER". We always have this love and hate kind of a relationship with our fathers which is a very common things among boys specifically (save my neck from the feminists here).
During our childhood we never really asked our parents or to be specific how they are feeling? how was the day? what happened in office? hows his work going on? is everything good between him and his colleagues? does he need a holiday? isn't he tired? Nothing. I never asked all these things when I was a kid. I assume none of us. Forget childhood even now.
But we all knew, he was feeling bad, he was tired, he was going through a rough phase, he had an argument with his colleagues, his boss was angry on him, nothing was good, he desperately need a holiday and he is missing something. "We" his kids were the reason he was enduring everything.
Do not feel bad. That was his "europhia". He was happy while doing that because we were happy. Like I said in my previous blog that I'll write whenever I encounter a "Random Europhia". So I just encounter with one while I was fighting with my father.
In our teenage we used to hate our father because of his annoying behavior (that was annoying in our term), he used to ask us not to play and go outside the house, focus on studies and other. There was a time when my father house-arrested me for a week or two because I failed in my quarterly exams in 10th grade and I used to hate him so much for that. This lead to a communication gap somehow and we were not on talking terms. Then there was time when my board result was about to come. One day he sat beside me and started telling his stories how he beat the odds and overcome every failure and why studies are not that much required and not the only ladder to be a successful man. Then we both went to see my result and he told me that my result is not a big issues for him and he was calm and composed. I was checking out the result at a cyber café and I got 70%. I was happy but my father was dam excited that i passed with good grades, he hugged me and that day I realized that do i really hate him? I was not talking to him just because if i get failed, he'll beat the shit out of me. We do not realize but there is always an invisible effort which our fathers put in just for the sake of our happiness and well being which we never notice.
We never understand their sacrifice, how much hurdles they have faced just to clean the roads for us. Today we feel proud of our self, we never understand how much our fathers downgraded themselves just to put a smile on our face. My father did so many pity jobs to reach where he is today and only because of him today I am proud of myself. We really cannot repay what they did for us, we can never match their level of dedication and hard work.
Just remember one thing, whenever you feel that you are lost and you can never win, just remember one thing that, "you can never lose anything because your father had lost so much in his life for you, whenever you feel like you are finished and nothing can go right with you talk to him and the first thing he'll say is that he lost every race, everyone out runned him in his life but you can never be a loser, you cannot be like him, you are here to win, just go there and win, no one can beat you"
Be with your parents and love them unconditionally, because when you are not with them they do feel lonely. As we are growing, our parents are getting old, the way we needed them when we were unable to earn bread for us, they need us now. They are depended on you, the way you used to be on them. We should realize the fact that there whole life revolve around us, they are happy because now we settled, they wasted every ounce of them on us for our future.
We always look out for inspirational videos & lectures, but never listens to our father who have faced so much in his life which was dedicated to us. We hate them for those 5 minute scolding's but trust me if we take one initiative and start listening to him. When he is over talk to him and you will get one advice that can change your life.
If you see your father you can recognize so many things which makes him an imperfect personality (according to you). The next second analyze yourself and look out whether you have the same imperfections or not. You will not have them, you will surely have his good not his bad, because while you were busy growing up he was buying nurturing you in a better way, making you the man he always wanted to be.
During our childhood we never really asked our parents or to be specific how they are feeling? how was the day? what happened in office? hows his work going on? is everything good between him and his colleagues? does he need a holiday? isn't he tired? Nothing. I never asked all these things when I was a kid. I assume none of us. Forget childhood even now.
But we all knew, he was feeling bad, he was tired, he was going through a rough phase, he had an argument with his colleagues, his boss was angry on him, nothing was good, he desperately need a holiday and he is missing something. "We" his kids were the reason he was enduring everything.
Do not feel bad. That was his "europhia". He was happy while doing that because we were happy. Like I said in my previous blog that I'll write whenever I encounter a "Random Europhia". So I just encounter with one while I was fighting with my father.
In our teenage we used to hate our father because of his annoying behavior (that was annoying in our term), he used to ask us not to play and go outside the house, focus on studies and other. There was a time when my father house-arrested me for a week or two because I failed in my quarterly exams in 10th grade and I used to hate him so much for that. This lead to a communication gap somehow and we were not on talking terms. Then there was time when my board result was about to come. One day he sat beside me and started telling his stories how he beat the odds and overcome every failure and why studies are not that much required and not the only ladder to be a successful man. Then we both went to see my result and he told me that my result is not a big issues for him and he was calm and composed. I was checking out the result at a cyber café and I got 70%. I was happy but my father was dam excited that i passed with good grades, he hugged me and that day I realized that do i really hate him? I was not talking to him just because if i get failed, he'll beat the shit out of me. We do not realize but there is always an invisible effort which our fathers put in just for the sake of our happiness and well being which we never notice.
We never understand their sacrifice, how much hurdles they have faced just to clean the roads for us. Today we feel proud of our self, we never understand how much our fathers downgraded themselves just to put a smile on our face. My father did so many pity jobs to reach where he is today and only because of him today I am proud of myself. We really cannot repay what they did for us, we can never match their level of dedication and hard work.
Just remember one thing, whenever you feel that you are lost and you can never win, just remember one thing that, "you can never lose anything because your father had lost so much in his life for you, whenever you feel like you are finished and nothing can go right with you talk to him and the first thing he'll say is that he lost every race, everyone out runned him in his life but you can never be a loser, you cannot be like him, you are here to win, just go there and win, no one can beat you"
Be with your parents and love them unconditionally, because when you are not with them they do feel lonely. As we are growing, our parents are getting old, the way we needed them when we were unable to earn bread for us, they need us now. They are depended on you, the way you used to be on them. We should realize the fact that there whole life revolve around us, they are happy because now we settled, they wasted every ounce of them on us for our future.
When a father gives to his son, both laugh; but when a son gives to his father, both cry.
-William Shakespeare
We always look out for inspirational videos & lectures, but never listens to our father who have faced so much in his life which was dedicated to us. We hate them for those 5 minute scolding's but trust me if we take one initiative and start listening to him. When he is over talk to him and you will get one advice that can change your life.
If you see your father you can recognize so many things which makes him an imperfect personality (according to you). The next second analyze yourself and look out whether you have the same imperfections or not. You will not have them, you will surely have his good not his bad, because while you were busy growing up he was buying nurturing you in a better way, making you the man he always wanted to be.
Love them and make them proud.
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